Crushed Crushes

16 Feb

Scrolling through FaceBook I happened across a link to a podcast about Kirstin’s thoughts on teen crunches and her endeavour to re-purchase the vinyl of her youth. It was such an interesting story and I found her insights into the rites of passage of tweenie, teen, crushes on idols and how they have a place in shaping our future feelings. I heartily recommend the listen.

The podcast can be found at Records And “Celebrity Crush” Stories

I missed the whole posters on the wall crush thing of youth for a number of reasons. My exposure to pop music was incredibly limited by today’s standards. Although the radio was on in the kitchen every morning, it was the local BBC station and more to do with news, weather and traffic reports. The radio was not on in the car on any journey, whether into town or off to holiday at relatives hours away. I didn’t have a radio or Hi-Fi of my own, in my room until I was thirteen, and I was rarely in my room.

Top Of The Pops was on every Thursday for half an hour and sometimes artists would chat and perform on tv shows like Des O’Connor, Wogan, Val Doonican, etc. I didn’t get to browse record shops or devour every printed pixel of magazines. Living in a rural village, a few miles from anyone near my age (or school) so I didn’t have the interaction with others to discuss, swap, swoon and so forth over pop groups and singers.

Sometimes when visiting an Aunt and Uncle my cousin would have a few lp’s he was happy to pass on to me (I’m sure I still have some). These were treasured items, revered and prized, because he was so cool, so modern and with it, being so much older than me.

Listening to Kristin was interesting, hearing her describe this electrifying tingle of something towards a face they’d never likely get to see in person, let alone get to know properly. Yet somehow this crush seems to be a method of mentally experiencing a fresh emotion, a dry run of recognising and learning the beginnings of attraction when seeking a potential life mate. As we get older, the crush item of our tween years becomes ‘uncool’ or ‘child-like’, as we progress to edgier, cooler, icon. Discarding such follies as we go and grow before looking back nostalgically and reminiscing about those feelings.

What is also interesting, as I scroll about particular Facebook groups and pages, there are some 50+, 60+ year olds still behaving all squealy girly over an image of their teenage crush, as if they were both still in their mid-teens.

Music seems to be the only art form that sparks such reaction. Few have the same swoon like devotion to an artist, sculptor, actor, writer etc. Maybe because music is something that involves the whole of the brain and roots into our psyche in so many ways.


Posted by on February 16, 2020 in Life


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6 responses to “Crushed Crushes

  1. snowbird

    February 19, 2020 at 8:46 pm

    This post really took me back….goodness, Top of the pops! How we all loved that and how dated it all looks

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  2. menhir1

    February 29, 2020 at 4:46 pm

    Who is Kristin?

    I can’t remember having a major swoon over any pop idol. There were a few that certainly did not turn me on to music in any shape or form. I liked a number of pop artists and the manner in which their records (45’s mostly) were produced. I also remember being ahead of the avante-garde game, buying a disc or two before they were either frowned on by the BEEB, where banning was being threatened but got nowhere. The usual thing happened, great publicity and getting to the top of the charts because of adult mores-versus teen culture.

    TV was not a regular form of entertainment in our house, the radio was. I occasionally saw a programme. I cannot even remember what, or who I saw. As for posters….nope, not one.


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    • AnneMarie

      February 29, 2020 at 4:55 pm

      Kristin Nilsen is a writer and something in library planning in Minnesota


  3. menhir1

    February 29, 2020 at 7:53 pm

    Thanks. Do you think Kristin is old enough to sentimentalise about all those poster people, or is Kristin imagining a time past?



    • AnneMarie

      February 29, 2020 at 7:55 pm

      No, she’s of an age to have had the crushes. However, as an active city dwelling American I think her access to the music was much greater than many Brits, definitely more access than me.

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