Bah Humbug and I’m okay with that

17 Dec

Christmas is not a spectator sport. It takes thought, planning, work, effort and getting actively involved to get stooped in the jolly spirit. Well this year it’s just not happening for me and I am perfectly okay about that.

For the past two or three years it has been harder and harder to get into the festive goings on. I witness the females around me getting ever more anxious and stressed as they try and pull together all their plans, find gifts, get them wrapped and delivered, there’s the festooning and bedecking of trees and rooms, the cards and letters, the grocery list and fretting over culinary creations. Increasingly as my physical health weakened I was unable to actively help and felt like I was adding to the to-do’ list.

TV and films portray this idyllic notion of gathering families, all smiles, full of good cheer, games are played, perfect nibbles appear, and everything is rosy and wonderful. The extended table laden with delicious delights, succulent roasts and colourful veg drizzled with shining gravy. This glamourised vision sets an impossible bench mark that many desperately try to reach or exceed.

It’s incredibly difficult to explain, because to many it seems unnatural to not get involved with the seasons traditions, but as I said, I’m okay with it. There are reports about visiting someone on their own, or those alone at Christmas, but I do not, in any way, feel like I am missing out.

On Boxing Day I will spend several hours with my very nearest and dearest, the kiddies will have loads to tell and show me and I will love hearing all about it, Neph & Niece will have delicious delights to nibble and I will enjoy the treats I never get to indulge in. And that will be more than enough.

Not everybody on their own is lonely, not everybody alone feels like they are missing out.


Posted by on December 17, 2019 in Life


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6 responses to “Bah Humbug and I’m okay with that

  1. deacongill

    December 18, 2019 at 1:40 pm

    Thanks for this robust post, three cheers! It’s ridiculous what we as a nation have made of Christmas so that for some people it’s impossible to enjoy. The more people who get off the treadmill the better.

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    • AnneMarie

      December 18, 2019 at 2:10 pm

      When you say, “I’m not doing X this year”, the disappointment, the look of ‘but you have to’ on the other persons face is almost guilt tripping that your decision is somehow selfish or unthinkable or in some way totally unacceptable. *shakeshead*


      • deacongill

        December 18, 2019 at 5:23 pm

        It’s nonsense! To us of course it’s primarily about the birth of Christ, so worship is at the centre of it. Even so, it’s far too easy to start slipping into the help-presents-help-food-help-stressed routine.

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  2. snowbird

    December 19, 2019 at 12:17 am

    I salute you! I really don’t get the Christmas hype and never really enjoy it, it’s all so materialistic, the excess packaging, the tat that ends in landfill, the debt people go into, the cruelty to animals….oh I could rant forever! Enjoy just being you!!!xxx

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    • Vicky

      December 19, 2019 at 8:05 pm

      I feel the same. I was just asking people at work if it was an age thing lol

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      • AnneMarie

        December 19, 2019 at 8:08 pm

        It might be. I wondered if it was to do with the family dynamic, no little ones to revisit our own childhood Christmas wonderments, or the social circle not being that mixed to feed the nostalgia and ethos of season spirit. *shrug*



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