Big Sis, the biggest loss

30 Jul

I was not yet prepared to have to say the following. My Sister died Friday 26th, at 5am.

Last October she had an emergency op to remove two tumours from the edge of her brain (we joked she’d had her marbles removed) little knowing there was a lung tumour. She recovered well and had radiation treatment before commencing immunotherapy in February. She had been responding well despite a few issues.

A little over three weeks ago she was suddenly lethargic and severely dehydrated and admitted to hospital where they discovered she had infections. While there were signs of slow improvement on Thursday she suddenly deteriorated and died within moments of her hubs and son arriving.

The impact of this has not fully hit me yet, on top of the recent changes in my personal circumstances 2019 is not being kind to me and my nearest.

Give a loved one, even if it’s your dog or cat, a hug and recall a pleasant memory.

I will be okay.

I’ve spent the past few days dealing with the bureaucracy of death, going through the emails, unsubscribing from lists, shutting down online shopping accounts. Amazon is a nightmare! Make sure you have your partners email password and account password because there are numerous hoops to get tangled up with. Getting the contact details on utility bills and insurances switched to hubs details. Answering question after question over what’s to be done in accordance with her wishes.

Timing of life is tricky, today is her grand daughters 4th birthday.


Posted by on July 30, 2019 in people


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3 responses to “Big Sis, the biggest loss

  1. menhir1

    July 30, 2019 at 5:30 pm

    You are remarkable, even in your raw grief you give out to others with helpful advice. I am so sorry to hear about your sister’s illnesses. As you say, the timing of life is tricky.

    The paperwork trail and officialdom at this time is difficult. It must be a huge support for your bro-in-law to be able to turn to you.

    Thinking of you dear, and please take a special hug from me. XXX

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    • snowbird

      July 30, 2019 at 10:35 pm

      Oh no, so very, very sorry to hear your heartbreaking news, I can imagine what a terrible shock this is to you all. Having to sort practical things at a time like this is nightmarish. Huge hugs to you. Please take good care of you.xxxxx

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  2. deacongill

    July 31, 2019 at 2:42 pm

    I’m so very sorry to learn this. I was thinking only today how devastating it would be to lose my sister. I’m glad you’re able to keep busy doing the essential things which are so time-consuming but which must be done. Love and hugs xx

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